Violence Against Women

With the increase in number of seminars, conferences, movements, rallies and literacy rate, it is legitimate to expect cases of violence against women to stop. But why do we still find stories of pain and why doesn't it take a name to stop? Why have complains regarding women violence been soaring up in alarming rate? Why isn't education helping to improve the present scenario? Why don’t people lodge complains against the perpetrators even when they know that whatever is happening with them is wrong? Well I believe it is all because of society.

However educated a woman or a girl is she still fears the social stigma because she knows that she will be looked at with scornful eyes even when she is proven to be innocent and the perpetrator to be guilty. She knows that speaking a word against the patriarchal members of the society will defame and bring dishonor to her family .She silently accepts what’s happening because she is inculcated to do so.

Two girls preparing for their S.L.C exams are attacked with acid in the center of the capital city. After rigorous efforts, movements, campaigns demanding stronger legislation, investigation and constant attacks by media the accused gets caught one month later. It becomes sensational news to the media. When he laughs remorselessly in the press release outrage is sparked in social media.  People salute Nepal police for their success. Then two days later the criminal turns out to be portrayed as a victim of untouchability .He is said to be a depression patient. Suddenly all the women right activists keep quiet. People start believing whatever he says. People forget that no reason is valid for the heinous crime he has done. People forget that every criminal has a dark past. People forget that a person who lies to his parents can easily trick others. People forget how remorselessly he had attacked the girls. People forget that the attack was not done when he was criticized or when he was regarded as untouchable but after he got thrown out of the selection in army. People forget that he crossed his boundaries as a teacher and established relation with a student. Suddenly his letters start  getting published in online portals where he states that he had done everything with Sangita except having a physical relationship. He proudly states that he doesn't regret for his monstrous act. People start feeling pity on him and the case is totally diverged. Not a single reporter again goes to the victim to verify the truth.Why? Because that’s what happens when a girl rejects a guy who establishes a relationship in the base of lie.  The victim’s family regrets for lodging the case.

A police constable is accused to rape a 13 year old child in Doti . I don’t think she was provoking enough or she was dressed in such a manner to get pregnant.  But still she was raped. But trust one day or the other she will be pointed at on her character. Guys will think 1000 times before marrying her. Even when the society knows when it was not her mistake and she did not approach for it.

People might present the case of 6 year old Puja Sah. Yes, I agree that it was justice in her case but there are thousands of Puja who have become voiceless.  But the solutions are so simple. Just change your mentality, don’t run after the current and change your actions. If everyone will do so there will be no violence against men or women.